The July/August issue of CPA Magazine features a story about narcissists in the workplace, and how to function effectively with (or despite) them, no matter whether they are your co-workers or your boss. Yours truly was honoured to be interviewed as an expert source. Not just an expert source though as I come by some of this knowledge first-hand. Back in the 1990’s, I (barely) survived an egomaniacal boss and I live to tell the tale!
Narcissism isn’t just confined to the political arena
In recent months, the popular press has been all abuzz about a certain narcissist (no name needed) in international politics. But unfortunately, Continue reading
Our work lives are filled with irritants – demanding or difficult people, unreasonable deadlines, overwhelming workloads – and it’s exactly these moments when we have to reach deep within ourselves to find ways to cope with these aggravations. At times like these, it’s worth thinking about how a pearl is formed.
A pearl begins life as an irritant that lodges inside an oyster’s shell. This foreign object – whether a parasite, a small grain of grit, or something else – gets caught in the oyster’s soft inner body, and to ease the irritation and frustration, the oyster begins to take defensive action. It secretes a smooth, hard nacre around the foreign object in order to protect itself and reduce the irritation. Continue reading
Danielle Harder from the Canadian HR Reporter contacted me a few weeks ago about a story she was doing on difficult conversations in the workplace. I was honored and thrilled to provide insights on how to find the words in awkward situations and tackle those prickly conversations that are sometimes necessary when dealing with employees. Here’s the opening of the article:
As a leadership and communications expert, Merge Gupta-Sunderji thought she had heard it all. But when her Calgary-based firm asked clients about the most difficult conversations they’ve had with employees, she was admittedly surprised. Take, for example, the female manager who had to talk to a male employee about continually grabbing himself in his private area during meetings.
Read the entire article that was published in the January 31 issue.
Do you have any additional tips? Or any horror stories of your own?
Whether it’s addressing an employee’s tardiness, confronting a backstabbing peer, breaking bad news to the boss, or even having the dreaded “body odour” chat, these conversations are anything but easy. In fact, if you’re like most people, you probably lose sleep for several nights just thinking about it, and the very notion of having these discussions causes you to break out in a cold sweat! Difficult conversations are just that – difficult – yet if you want to maintain a positive and productive workplace (and your sanity), then you must find a direct and respectful way to bring up these issues so that they result in the desired outcome, and don’t deteriorate into anger, resentment or hard feelings. This short video offers one powerful tip to make the process more successful.
If you’d like the Top Ten report I refer to in this video, either click this link: http://www.turningmanagersintoleaders.com/difficult-conversations-free-report/ or go to the URL on the screen at the end of the video. Plus, let me know if your difficult conversation subject was on the Top Ten List, or did you have a doozy that is different?
If you’ve ever had to have a difficult conversation with an employee or a co-worker, then you should know that you are not alone. If you’re like most people, you’ve probably lost sleep for several nights just thinking about it, and the very notion of having these discussions causes you to break out in a cold sweat! In fact, this is such a common problem that at least once a week, I receive requests from managers and supervisors in client organizations, seeking assistance in having exactly this type of dialogue.
David Gadarian of MostMost asked me for a list of the ten topics that come up most often when it comes to “difficult conversations”. Here then, based on an informal poll we conducted earlier this year as well as anecdotal evidence, is my top ten list.
Do you agree?
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