The July/August issue of CPA Magazine features a story about narcissists in the workplace, and how to function effectively with (or despite) them, no matter whether they are your co-workers or your boss. Yours truly was honoured to be interviewed as an expert source. Not just an expert source though as I come by some of this knowledge first-hand. Back in the 1990’s, I (barely) survived an egomaniacal boss and I live to tell the tale!
Narcissism isn’t just confined to the political arena
In recent months, the popular press has been all abuzz about a certain narcissist (no name needed) in international politics. But unfortunately, Continue reading
Last week I blogged about one of the common traits of terrible bosses – that they are micro-managers. Today, ending our short series on this subject, I want to cover one more widespread characteristic of the terrible boss – s/he tells you off in front of others.
Terrible bosses scold in public
There is only one thing more disheartening than being criticized by someone in authority, and that is being criticized in front of an audience, particularly when that audience is the people you work with. But this is something that terrible bosses do regularly. You see, from their perspective, it is a way to control by fear, and quite frankly, they do it often because it is effective. If they can control you and get you to do what they want, AND build up their already low self-esteem in the process, why shouldn’t they?
Sadly though, even though it may work in the short-term, they aren’t building relationships for the long-term. Continue reading
Continuing in our revived series on the characteristics of the boss from hell, here is one more trait common to the horrible boss -– s/he micro-manages you!
Micro-managers make horrible bosses!
The “micro-manager” horrible boss gets involved in the minutiae of your job and re-does everything you do. He questions your every move and never lets you complete anything on your own. Working for a micro-manager is not only maddening, it’s wearisome and demoralizing. It demonstrates lack of trust, and causes you to question your ability to make decisions.
Which is, by the way, exactly what the horrible boss wants. If you are unable to make decisions and feel the need to get approval for every small task, then to the micro-manager, it feels like he is in control. And, oh yeah, let’s not forget, if the outcome of any decision is not up to scratch, then it will undeniably be because you have him bad information. Either way, it’s a difficult place to spend your work day. Continue reading
A few weeks ago, I started a short series of blog posts about the traits that characterize “the boss from hell” – you know, the horrible boss who you dislike working for so intensely that you’d do just about anything not to come into work. Previously, I blogged about how the horrible boss not only treats employees like they’re not people, but also overworks them, and constantly criticizes them. This short series got so much attention (apparently a lot of you either work for, or previously worked with a horrible boss!) that I figured I’d continue the series, based partly on some of your comments in the emails I received on this subject. Today’s common characteristic of the boss from hell? – they take credit for your work.
The horrible boss takes credit for your work
Bosses from hell take their employees’ work and pass it off as their own. Now it’s true that as a manager, you can rightly take credit for the work that comes out of your department. But it’s when you take credit for the accomplishments AND do not acknowledge the specific people who actually did the work that you cross over the line into the “horrible boss” category. Continue reading
Last week I started a short series on horrible bosses (motivated by a recent re-watch of the movie The Devil Wears Prada) in which I began to verbalize the common traits that apply to the boss from hell. So far, we have two – hell-ish bosses don’t see their employees as real people (only pawns on a chessboard), and they overwork them, sometimes to the point of loss in productivity. Today I have yet another common characteristic of the horrible boss to add to the list – they only recognize bad performance, never good, or god forbid, exceptional!
Quick to criticize, but slow (if at all) to praise
These are the managers who are stridently vocal when things go wrong. And it usually doesn’t take much to set the horrible boss off on a tirade. The smallest slip-up, the tiniest error, the marginal delay, all get them riled up and into a tizzy. They are known to loudly berate and belittle, often with an audience. In many ways, it’s as if the temper tantrum builds up their self-esteem. Continue reading
Earlier this week I started a series about the characteristics of the boss from hell, prompted by my recent re-watch of the movie The Devil Wears Prada. My last post was about how devil bosses don’t see their employees as real people (with hopes, preferences and dreams), but rather as pawns to be moved around on a giant chessboard to achieve some greater objective. Here’s another trait of the boss from hell – they overwork their employees. The boss from hell doesn’t understand that overworking his/her people is completely counterproductive, as nothing burns employees out more than overloading them. In the movie, not only did Miranda Priestly (Meryl Streep) overburden Andrea Sachs (Anne Hathaway) with more work than any normal person could be expected to handle in a single day, but she also expected her to be at her beck and call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week!
Unlike in the movie, overworking of employees can often happen unintentionally; after all, if you’re in a position of leadership, the tendency is to get the most you can out of your best people. But the irony is Continue reading
Last weekend I watched (again) the 2006 blockbuster movie The Devil Wears Prada. If you’re not familiar with the film, this comedy drama stars Meryl Streep as Miranda Priestly, a powerful fashion magazine editor, and Anne Hathaway as Andrea Sachs, a college graduate who goes to New York City and lands the horrible job as Priestly’s co-assistant. The “devil” in this movie is Miranda Priestly, quite possibly the ultimate “boss from hell”. Watching the movie again was great entertainment, but it also got me thinking about what constitutes the “boss from hell”. What characteristics or behaviours make devil bosses as horrid and dreadful as they are? So I thought: why not start an intermittent series of blog posts on what makes up the “boss from hell”? Here is my first one – they don’t see their employees as people.
The devil boss doesn’t see employees as people, just pawns on a giant chessboard, moved around at whim, to meet his or her personal objectives. Continue reading
Danielle Harder from the Canadian HR Reporter contacted me a few weeks ago about a story she was doing on difficult conversations in the workplace. I was honored and thrilled to provide insights on how to find the words in awkward situations and tackle those prickly conversations that are sometimes necessary when dealing with employees. Here’s the opening of the article:
As a leadership and communications expert, Merge Gupta-Sunderji thought she had heard it all. But when her Calgary-based firm asked clients about the most difficult conversations they’ve had with employees, she was admittedly surprised. Take, for example, the female manager who had to talk to a male employee about continually grabbing himself in his private area during meetings.
Read the entire article that was published in the January 31 issue.
Do you have any additional tips? Or any horror stories of your own?
Some conversations with employees are not easy! Either the topic is sensitive or controversial, or the person you have to talk to has a reputation of getting prickly and defensive, or even worse, both! Either way, it’s a difficult dialogue, and if there was any way you could possibly get out of it, you would no doubt find it! Yet, if you want to create and maintain a positive and productive workplace, then you have to speak up to resolve workplace issues. This short video tells you the one thing you absolutely HAVE to do if you’re going to have any hope of achieving success in your goal.
If you’d like the Top Ten report I refer to in this video, either click this link: http://www.turningmanagersintoleaders.com/difficult-conversations-free-report/ or go to the URL on the screen at the end of the video. And, let me know if the topic of your uncomfortable discussion made it to our Top Ten List. And if it didn’t I’d love to hear about it!
Whether it’s addressing an employee’s tardiness, confronting a backstabbing peer, breaking bad news to the boss, or even having the dreaded “body odour” chat, these conversations are anything but easy. In fact, if you’re like most people, you probably lose sleep for several nights just thinking about it, and the very notion of having these discussions causes you to break out in a cold sweat! Difficult conversations are just that – difficult – yet if you want to maintain a positive and productive workplace (and your sanity), then you must find a direct and respectful way to bring up these issues so that they result in the desired outcome, and don’t deteriorate into anger, resentment or hard feelings. This short video offers one powerful tip to make the process more successful.
If you’d like the Top Ten report I refer to in this video, either click this link: http://www.turningmanagersintoleaders.com/difficult-conversations-free-report/ or go to the URL on the screen at the end of the video. Plus, let me know if your difficult conversation subject was on the Top Ten List, or did you have a doozy that is different?